Compare and DIE
So many of our problems exist as a result of the unhealthy comparisons we make…
We draw foolish comparisons between the apparent success of others with the prevailing struggle in our own lives… we watch how some people on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram seemingly have no problems whatsoever and start to feel a sincere bitterness and anger about our own lives.
Children are asking their parents why they have a small house while their friends all live in mansions!
Wives are demanding more from their husbands so that they can also go to the Spa on a weekly basis like all the other ladies living on Wisteria Lane!
Men are even going for surgical procedures to change parts of their anatomy so that they too can walk around boldly and audaciously in the locker room!
Beautiful single women are going to bed angry asking, “why does everyone around me have a husband and someone that loves them and yet I have nobody?”
Pastors are thinking of abandoning their callings because all the other Churches seem to be making progress and yet theirs is not!
So many of the entrepreneurs who I have as clients are wanting to throw in the towel, not because they don’t have what it takes to succeed but because they can’t stand the success being experienced by their competitors.
Comparisons will kill you!
A few years ago when I entered the world of Entrepreneurship I was obsessed with comparisons, comparing my business to large well established organisations and also to small start ups… while all these other businesses were making steady progress and doing the best that they could; I was busy comparing and needless to say this caused a huge problem as I was no longer customer centric- I became competitor centric and very quickly found myself so far away from the vision I had and completely disregarded the unique offering I had established in my business.
I realized that I was programmed to discredit the achievements of others, to nullify the success of the people I was competing against; comparing myself to others somehow became a “default” behavior that was not serving me well.
This was a significant turning point in my life because it presented a great opportunity for me to design a new way to process information and fashion a superior response to these eventualities. I knew that I needed to find a way to RELATE to the success of others, look for LESSONS to learn from the way other companies overcame obstacles, SIMILARITIES in the challenges we all face, PARALLELS that I could emulate and SYNERGIES that I could establish.
The advantages of RELATING and finding PARRALELS are endless, it has helped me to connect with other amazing people, and it has inspired me to look for synergies and opportunities to collaborate with other Entrepreneurs; this superior response has served me well,
If you made it to the end of this blog, I would like to thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you, you may be someone who does not need this kind of encouragement and that is awesome but I would like to ask that you please take 10 seconds and send this link to someone who you believe will benefit from it.
Until next time… RELATE and live well!